Sex toys for gay men: a complete 2024 buying guide

Why this guide exists — and why it’s different

Between overly clinical articles that list products without context and overly sensationalist content that provides no real information, gay and bisexual men often lack honest resources for choosing their sex toys. This guide changes that. Whether you are a complete novice when it comes to sex toys or you are looking to expand a well-stocked collection, you will find practical advice, real comparisons, and a product selection designed for your desires and your anatomy here.

Because yes, some sex toys are universal — but others are clearly designed to cater to the most common practices and pleasures in gay male sexuality: prostate stimulation, penetration games, wearing accessories, and the world of kink and harnesses. We’re going to break it all down, without taboos and without judgment.

Ready? Let's dive into the most comprehensive guide on the French-speaking market on the subject.

1. Understanding your anatomy to choose better

The prostate: the male G-spot

You can't talk about sex toys for gay men without mentioning the prostate. This small, walnut-sized gland is located about 5 to 7 centimeters inside the rectum, towards the belly. It is densely innervated and, when stimulated correctly, can trigger orgasms of remarkable intensity — sometimes described as deeper and more diffuse than the classic penile orgasm.

Sexology studies (notably the work of researcher Milton Diamond on the diversity of male orgasmic responses) confirm that prostate stimulation activates nerve zones distinct from the perineum and the spinal bulb, which explains these unique sensations. Approximately 70% of men who have regularly engaged in prostate stimulation report an improvement in the intensity of their orgasms — a figure from a survey conducted by the Kinsey Institute in 2019.

To effectively target the prostate, anal toys with a pronounced curve are ideal. Vibrating models add an extra dimension that is highly appreciated.

Anal penetration and preparation

Whether you are a bottom, versatile, or just curious, anal penetration requires physical and mental preparation. The anal sphincter is not naturally elastic like the vagina: it relaxes gradually with relaxation, lubrication, and practice. Anal plugs are designed exactly for this — they allow you to get used to the feeling of fullness without rushing.

Golden rule: always use a lubricant compatible with your toy. For silicone toys, opt for a water-based lubricant. For metal or glass toys, a silicone lubricant offers superior glide.

2. Anal plugs: where to start?

The anal plug is often the first purchase for a man exploring anal pleasure. Its role? To stay in place during foreplay or penetration, stimulate the prostate and the nerve endings of the sphincter, and create that feeling of fullness that is so appreciated.

Classic plugs

A good beginner anal plug features a well-defined neck (to prevent migration), a wide and flared base (absolute safety for anal use), and a progressive size. Medical-grade silicone is the gold-standard material: non-porous, easy to clean, and soft to the touch.

Our recommendation for a gentle start: the Fun Factory Bootie Ring Black. This clever model combines an anal plug and a cock ring in one accessory, for simultaneous stimulation of the sphincter and the base of the penis. Fun Factory is a German brand recognized for the quality of its silicone and the care taken in the ergonomics of its products.

For those who want a colorful variant with a slightly different shape, the Fun Factory Bootie Ring Green offers the same benefits with a splash of bright color and a slight difference in texture that regular users really like.

Plugs with vibration function

Adding vibrations radically transforms the experience. Vibrations transmitted directly to the prostate can trigger very intense sensations, even without penile stimulation. If you want to go further in anal exploration with an autonomous toy, browse the shop's sex toy collection to find models with different vibration modes.

3. Cock rings: pleasure and performance for men

The cock ring is one of the most underrated male sex toys. Its principle is simple: worn at the base of the penis (and sometimes the testicles), it slows down venous return, which keeps the erection firmer for longer and increases sensitivity. The result: more intense erections and, for many men, a welcome delay in ejaculation.

Vibrating cock ring: double pleasure

A vibrating cock ring adds a dimension of direct stimulation for you and your partner. The vibrations propagate through the penis, which can intensify penetration for both partners.

The Bcharmed Basic Wave Violet Vibrating Cock Ring by B Swish is an excellent entry point into this world. Its wave shape is designed to maximize skin contact and amplify vibrations. Waterproof and rechargeable, it ticks all the boxes for great value for money.

Classic rings: plus discretion

For couples' play or parties where you want to add a playful touch, the Spencer & Fleetwood Glow-in-the-Dark Love Rings 3-Pack bring an unexpected fun and visual dimension. The pack of 3 different sizes allows you to find the perfect fit — a crucial detail for comfort and safety.

Important: a cock ring should never be worn for more than 20–30 minutes continuously, and should be removed immediately in case of discomfort, numbness, or pain. Stretchable silicone models are much safer for beginners than rigid metal versions.

4. Masturbators and penis pumps: solitary exploration reinvented

Innovative masturbators

Masturbation is a healthy and normal practice, and modern masturbators have radically transformed this solitary experience. Far from the simple sleeves of yesteryear, new models incorporate vibration, suction, and sophisticated internal textures.

The Jamyjob Astra Extreme Suction Vibrating Masturbator represents the top of the line in this category. Its suction system creates controlled suction around the glans, combined with internal vibrations — a dual stimulation that reproduces sensations very close to oral sex. It is a technically advanced product, ideal for solo sessions or stimulation as a couple.

Penis pumps: pleasure and exploration

The penis pump is often surrounded by myths. Let's be clear: a pump does not permanently change the size of the penis, but it does create temporary vascular congestion that increases volume and sensitivity during use. It is primarily a toy for pleasure and exploration, appreciated for the unique sensations it provides.

The Intense Transparent Penis Pump 01 with Gauge stands out for its built-in pressure gauge — a vital safety detail. It allows you to precisely control the pressure exerted and avoid any risk of vascular injury. The transparency of the cylinder adds an exciting visual dimension. For any pump use, start with short sessions (5 minutes maximum) and never exceed the recommended pressure.

5. Dildos: limitless penetration pleasure

A dildo is a penetration toy without vibration — but don't let its apparent simplicity fool you. The variety of shapes, sizes, and materials available is immense, and some models are specifically designed to target the prostate.

Flexible dildos for prostate stimulation

Flexibility is a major asset for anal stimulation: it allows the toy to adapt to the natural curvature of the rectum and maintain optimal contact with the prostate. The Fun Factory Limba Flex Flexible Dildo Size S Magenta is an excellent example of this philosophy. Despite its "G-spot" name (initially intended for vaginal stimulation), its curve and flexibility make it a prime candidate for prostate exploration in men. Size S is perfect for starting without getting in over your head.

How to choose the right size?

This is the question everyone asks and few guides address honestly. Here is a reference table:

Editorial honesty: the biggest size is not necessarily the most pleasurable. Many experienced men report that the most intense prostate orgasms come from medium-sized, well-positioned toys, rather than large calibers. Anatomy takes precedence over ego.

6. Harnesses and kink accessories: the world of male sensuality

The world of harnesses and light BDSM accessories is seeing a considerable resurgence of interest within the gay community. Beyond the undeniable visual aspect — a well-worn harness sculpts the torso and commands presence — these accessories play an important role in playing with domination, submission, and sensory experience.

Chest harnesses: the fashion and sexual accessory

Chest harnesses are worn directly on the skin, on a bare torso. They frame the pectorals and create an aesthetic that is highly appreciated in intimate contexts as well as when going out to LGBTQ+ establishments.

The brand Fetish Submissive Attitude offers three excellent options:

• The Adjustable Neoprene Sport Chest Harness: Neoprene is a comfortable, slightly elastic material that hugs the body without cutting off circulation. Perfect for long nights or use during sex play. The adjustments allow it to be adapted to all body types.
• The Brigade Faux-Leather Chest Harness: Faux leather (eco-leather) offers the look of traditional leather with simpler maintenance and a more accessible price. This "Brigade" model has an assumed military line, very trendy in the gay leather aesthetic.
• The Crossed Neoprene Chest Harness with Zippers: The crossed design creates graphic lines on the torso, and the zippers allow for quick removal — a practical detail that counts in a BDSM context.

Browse the entire collection of harnesses for men to find the model that matches your style.

Introduction to BDSM: light bondage for beginners

BDSM is a vast universe that deserves a dedicated guide, but here is the essential for a safe first approach. The fundamental rule is Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC): any practice must be safe, performed in a sane state of mind, and explicitly consented to by all parties.

For an accessible initiation, the Ohmama Black Ball Gag and Nipple Clamp Bondage Kit is a well-thought-out starting point. The ball gag creates speech deprivation that intensifies the power play, and the nipple clamps introduce pressure stimulation — a very particular sensation that some find extremely exciting. Always establish a non-verbal safety signal (like hitting the floor with your hands) when a gag is used.

7. FAQ: the real questions gay men ask about sex toys

Are anal sex toys dangerous?

No, provided you follow a few rules: only use toys with a flared base or a pull cord (never use toys without a base in the anus), use plenty of lubricant, never force, and stop if there is pain. Pain is not normal and always signals a problem to be addressed before continuing.

Should you perform an intestinal preparation before using an anal plug or dildo?

This is a topic few guides address honestly. A light anal douche (also called an enema) can be performed before anal play for greater psychological comfort, but it is not medically necessary for the use of sex toys. If you choose to douche internally, use only lukewarm water and tools designed for that purpose — never household or chemical products that irritate the rectal mucosa.

Can you use a cock ring every day?

Yes, provided you respect the maximum duration of use (20–30 minutes) and choose an appropriate size — neither too tight nor too loose. A cock ring that is too tight can create dangerous constriction. To test for the right size, measure the circumference of your penile base while erect.

What materials are safest for anal toys?

In order of preference: medical-grade silicone (non-porous, easy to sterilize, hypoallergenic), medical stainless steel, and borosilicate glass (for rigid plugs and dildos). Absolutely avoid PVC, non-medical latex, and jelly rubber, which can contain phthalates and are porous (impossible to sterilize completely).

How to maintain and store your sex toys?

Silicone toys can be cleaned with mild soap and hot water, or put in the dishwasher (without the electronic parts!). Store them separately in cloth bags or individual boxes — silicone can react chemically with other materials if stored together.

Can you use the same toys with a partner?

Yes, provided you clean them scrupulously between each use. For intercourse with penetration (even with toys), using a condom on the toy simplifies hygiene and reduces the risk of STI transmission. Talk about it freely with your partner.

8. Summary: which toy to choose according to your profile?

Conclusion: your pleasure deserves the best tools

Choosing a sex toy is above all an act of self-knowledge and respect for your own pleasure. For a long time, gay men were either ignored in sex toy marketing or reduced to a few clichés. Fortunately, things have changed a lot, and the most reputable manufacturers on the market now design products intended for truly diverse experiences.

This guide has provided you with the anatomical basics, safety criteria, honest comparisons, and concrete product recommendations. Now it's up to you — with curiosity, respect for your body, and, above all, pleasure.

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Happy exploring!