Solo sex: the pleasure that begins with you

Pleasure by yourself is one of the most natural things in the world — and yet, it is still surrounded by a strange silence. A study published by IFOP in 2021 reveals that 9 out of 10 French people have masturbated, but barely half talk about it openly. The figure says it all: we do it, we don't talk about it. Solo sex, however, is a practice in its own right — not a substitute, not a shame, not a mere anecdote. It's a moment for you, with you, at your own pace. Whether you are in a relationship or single, a beginner or an expert, whether you have five minutes or the whole night, exploring your own body is learning a language that no one else will ever be able to speak for you.

Because knowing yourself means you’re already choosing the best possible partner: you.

Why exploring solo pleasure really makes a difference

First, it’s good for your head. Several sexology studies show that solo pleasure reduces stress, improves sleep, and releases endorphins — those little molecules that make you feel great afterward. It's not rocket science: your body knows exactly how to feel good, you just have to give it the chance.

Next, knowing yourself better solo means communicating better in a duo. Knowing what you really like — a pressure, a rhythm, a zone — allows you to say it, show it, and share it if you wish. Shared pleasure often begins with this intimate moment with yourself.

And practically speaking, it also helps you choose the right toys. When you know what your body enjoys, you no longer buy at random. You choose with intention — and every euro spent at quedulove.store truly makes sense.

Questions we ask ourselves (but rarely dare to ask)

Is solo sex beneficial for health?

Yes, clearly. Regular masturbation is associated with a better understanding of one's body, stress reduction, and for some people, deeper sleep thanks to the release of oxytocin and dopamine. There is no "too much" threshold, as long as it doesn't interfere with your daily life. Your body knows what it's doing.

Do you need a toy to enjoy solo sex?

Absolutely not — hands preceded every vibrator in history. That said, a well-chosen toy can open up sensations you didn't yet suspect. G-spot stimulation, external vibrations, controlled pressure: certain accessories do things that fingers simply cannot reproduce. It's a matter of exploration, not an obligation.

Can you get bored of doing the same thing?

Yes, and it's a sign that your body is craving novelty — not a problem, an invitation. Changing position, exploring a different zone, trying a new toy, or simply slowing down: routine kills pleasure, even solo. Treat every session as a real experience, not a box to check. Curious about what's out there? The shop is there for that.