Introduction
A strap-on dildo, also called a strap-on or harness dildo, is a popular couples accessory that allows for the exploration of new sensations. Whether you are a novice or experienced, choosing the right strap-on is essential for a pleasant and safe experience.
In this guide, we explain all the criteria to consider: size, material, harness type, and many others. You will also discover the different practices (pegging, double penetration, anal penetration) and how to adapt your choice to your needs.
1. Understanding the types of strap-ons
Hollow vs. solid strap-on dildo
Hollow strap-on dildo:
- The hollow end slides over your partner's penis
- Allows for double penetration (vaginal + anal, or vaginal + vaginal)
- Ideal for heterosexual or homosexual couples
- Offers additional stimulation to the wearer
Solid strap-on dildo:
- Classic dildo attached to a harness
- Used for vaginal or anal penetration
- Suitable for all couples
- Easier to use for beginners
Our advice: If this is your first experience, start with a solid strap-on. It is easier to master.
Strap-free dildo
Some strap-ons do not have an external harness. The base slides directly into the wearer's vagina. It is a discreet option, but it requires more practice.
2. Choosing the right size
Size is one of the most important criteria. A dildo that is too large can be uncomfortable, while one that is too small will not provide the expected sensations.
Dildo length
- Beginners: 15-18 cm (easy to control)
- Intermediates: 18-23 cm (good compromise)
- Experienced: 23+ cm (for intense sensations)
Tip: Measure your partner's comfortable penetration depth before purchasing. This varies from person to person.
Dildo diameter
Diameter is crucial for comfort. Here are the benchmarks:
- Small diameter (3-4 cm): Ideal for beginners or for anal penetration
- Medium diameter (4-5 cm): The most popular, a good compromise
- Large diameter (5+ cm): For experienced users or personal preference
Caution: Too large a diameter can cause discomfort or pain. Go progressively.
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3. Selecting the right material
The material affects comfort, durability, and hygiene. Here are the main options:
Silicone
- Pros: Soft, flexible, easy to clean, hypoallergenic
- Cons: More expensive
- Best for: Most users, especially those with sensitive skin
PVC/Vinyl
- Pros: Cheaper, rigid (good for deep penetration)
- Cons: Less durable, may contain phthalates
- Best for: Limited budgets
Cyberskin/TPE
- Pros: Realistic, flexible
- Cons: Difficult to clean, less durable
- Best for: Those seeking realism
Glass or stainless steel
- Pros: Very durable, easy to clean, can be heated/cooled
- Cons: Rigid, more expensive
- Best for: Experienced users
Our recommendation: Opt for medical-grade silicone. It offers the best value for money and durability.
4. Choosing the right harness
The harness is just as important as the dildo itself. A poor harness can cause discomfort or slip during use.
Types of harnesses
Single-strap harness:
- One strap around the waist
- Lightweight and discreet
- Ideal for beginners
Double-strap harness:
- Two straps (waist + thighs)
- More stable and comfortable
- Best for long sessions
Full harness:
- Multiple straps (waist, thighs, buttocks)
- Maximum stability
- Ideal for intense practices
Harness material
- Nylon/Polyester: Lightweight, easy to clean, comfortable
- Leather: Aesthetic, durable, but harder to clean
- Neoprene: Comfortable, flexible, good support
Tip: Ensure the harness is adjustable. Every body is different, and a good fit is essential for comfort.
Harness size
Harnesses generally come in sizes:
- S/M: For smaller frames
- M/L: Standard size
- L/XL: For larger frames
Measure your waist and thigh circumference before purchasing.
5. Considering sexual practices
Your choice also depends on what you want to practice.
Pegging
Pegging is the anal penetration of a man by a woman using a strap-on.
- Recommended dildo: Small to medium diameter (3-4 cm), 15-20 cm length
- Material: Flexible silicone
- Harness: Single or double strap for stability
Check out our complete guide on pegging for more advice.
Double penetration
Double penetration combines vaginal and anal penetration (or two vaginal penetrations).
- Recommended dildo: Hollow strap-on to allow for double penetration
- Size: Medium to large (18-23 cm)
- Material: Flexible silicone
Single vaginal or anal penetration
For simple penetration (vaginal or anal):
- Recommended dildo: Solid strap-on
- Size: Adapted to personal preference
- Material: Silicone or other quality material
6. Lubrication: a key element
Regardless of the strap-on type, lubrication is essential for comfort and safety.
Types of lubricant
Water-based lubricant:
- Compatible with all materials
- Easy to clean
- Must be reapplied regularly
Silicone-based lubricant:
- Lasts longer
- Not suitable for silicone toys
- Difficult to clean
Oil-based lubricant:
- Very durable
- Can damage condoms
- Difficult to clean
Our advice: Use a quality water-based lubricant. It is the safest and most versatile.
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7. Hygiene and maintenance
Hygiene is paramount to avoid infections.
Before use
- Clean the dildo with a mild toy cleaner
- Dry completely
- Apply lubricant
During use
- Use a condom on the dildo for better hygiene
- Change the condom if you switch the type of penetration
- Reapply lubricant if necessary
After use
- Clean immediately with warm water
- Use a toy cleaner if available
- Dry completely before storing
- Store in a cool, dry place
Storage
- Store in a dedicated bag or box
- Avoid direct sunlight
- Keep away from children and pets
8. Budget and quality
Price varies significantly depending on quality and materials.
Budget | Quality | Durability |
Under €30 | Basic | 6-12 months
€30-60 | Good | 1-2 years
€60-100 | Very good | 2-5 years
Over €100 | Premium | 5+ years
Our advice: Invest in a quality dildo. A good strap-on lasts for years and offers a better experience.
9. Tips for beginners
If this is your first experience with a strap-on:
- Start small: Choose a dildo with a small to medium diameter
- Take your time: Penetration should be progressive and comfortable
- Communicate: Talk with your partner before, during, and after
- Use lubricant: Lots of lubricant is better
- Stay relaxed: Muscle tension makes penetration uncomfortable
- Stop if there is pain: Pain is never normal. Stop immediately
- Clean after: Hygiene is essential
10. Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Can a strap-on cause injury?
A: With proper lubrication, clear communication, and progressive advancement, risks are minimal. Stop immediately if you feel pain.
Q: Which strap-on should I get to start?
A: A solid strap-on, small to medium diameter (3-4 cm), made of silicone, with a simple harness. Start with 15-18 cm in length.
Q: How long does a strap-on last?
A: A quality dildo lasts 2-5 years with proper care. Premium models can last longer.
Q: Can I use a strap-on alone?
A: Yes, some strap-ons are designed for self-stimulation. Check the product specifications.
Q: Which lubricant should I use with a strap-on?
A: A water-based lubricant is the safest and most versatile. Avoid oil-based lubricants when using condoms.
Conclusion
Choosing the right strap-on requires considering several factors: size, material, harness type, and sexual practices. Take the time to think about your needs and preferences.
Remember: communication with your partner is essential. Discuss your desires, limits, and concerns before starting.
At quedulove, we offer a wide selection of quality strap-ons for all levels and preferences. Explore our catalog and find the perfect model for you.
Have fun!
Additional Resources
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- Edible lubricants
- Edible lingerie for couples
- Erotic cushion for positions
