Pleasure has no gender. Yet, for a long time, sex toys have been designed and marketed in a very binary way: products “for women” on one side, products “for men” on the other. This reductive vision left out a much richer reality: millions of non-binary, transgender, intersex people, or those simply curious about exploring their sexuality without predefined boxes. Today, the sector is evolving. Manufacturers are creating pleasure objects adapted to all bodies, regardless of anatomy, gender identity, or orientation. This guide helps you navigate this growing range of products, with honest and caring advice to find what really suits you.
Why talk about inclusive and non-binary sex toys?
Inclusivity in the sex toy sector is not just a marketing trend. It responds to a real and deep need. According to an IFOP study published in 2022, about 4% of French people identify as non-binary or outside the traditional gender binary. On a European scale, ILGA-Europe estimates that this proportion is similar and is constantly increasing among new generations.
For these individuals, as well as for everyone who has a complex relationship with their body—whether they are trans people in transition, people who have undergone surgery, or simply people who wish to explore without labels—the question of adapted sex toys is central. A good inclusive sex toy is a toy that:
- Does not presuppose specific anatomy in its design or communication
- Can provide pleasure to different types of bodies
- Is ergonomic and versatile in its use
- Does not carry implicit value judgments in its name or marketing
At quedulove.store, we believe that every person deserves access to products that resonate with them. That is why we have selected collections designed for all bodies and all desires.
Vibrators: the quintessential inclusive star
If one type of toy were to embody inclusivity, it would undoubtedly be the vibrator. Versatile, adaptable, and capable of providing pleasure to any erogenous zone on the body—clitoris, penis, nipples, perineum, or other areas—the vibrator does not discriminate.
Models with flexible heads or articulated necks are particularly suitable because they adjust to all anatomies. A powerful wand vibrator, for example, can be used on a clitoris just as well as on a glans, a perineum, or along a mastectomy scar to reactivate sensitivity. Some models without an explicit phallic shape are designed precisely to avoid referencing gendered anatomy.
Explore our selection of vibrators to find the one that suits you. Among our inclusive favorites, we particularly recommend the universal wand vibrator, whose spherical head adapts to all anatomies, and the compact rechargeable mini vibrator, which is discreet and versatile.
Clitoral stimulators: not just for cisgender women
The word “clitoris” is still too often associated only with cisgender women. Yet, anatomically, the clitoris shares a common structure with the glans of the penis—both emerge from the same embryonic tissue. This means that pressure wave stimulators, also called clitoral stimulators, can also provide intense pleasure on the glans of a penis, whether circumcised or not, or on any comparable sensitive zone.
Trans women on hormone therapy regularly report increased sensitivity of the glans and a very positive response to suction stimulators. Similarly, non-binary people assigned male at birth can find in these toys a way to explore their pleasure differently.
Our collection of clitoral stimulators offers models with attachments of different sizes to adapt to all anatomies. The dual-head pressure wave stimulator is particularly appreciated for its versatility.
Anal plugs and dildos: anal pleasure has no gender
Anal pleasure is universal. The anal area is rich in nerve endings in all human beings, regardless of their anatomy or identity. Prostatic stimulation—often called the “P-spot”—is accessible to all people with a prostate (assigned male at birth), but anal pleasure is not limited to this. People without a prostate can also experience intense anal pleasure through indirect stimulation of the internal clitoris or simply due to the nerve richness of the area.
According to a Kinsey Institute survey, nearly 40% of men and 36% of women have already experienced anal penetration. These figures transcend gender and orientation categories.
Our collection of anal plugs offers models of all sizes, from beginner plugs to more generous models for experienced users. To take it further, our dildos include models compatible with harnesses, making them ideal for couples of all configurations—a particularly valuable tool for trans or non-binary people practicing “packing” or “strap-on” play. Always remember to use a suitable lubricant for any anal play: it is essential for your comfort and safety.
Couples toys: thinking about inclusivity for two (or more)
Inclusivity does not only concern solo toys. Sex toys for couples have also long been designed for cisgender heterosexual configurations. Here again, things are changing. Dual vibrators, wearable toys, vibrating rings, or remote-controlled vibrators can be used in any couple or group configuration.
Universal harnesses and non-realistic dildos (without a gendered anatomical shape) allow couples of all identities to explore penetration. Wearable vibrators work for all anatomies, effectively stimulating the clitoris, perineum, or penis depending on the wearer.
Explore our selection of sex toys for couples for ideas suited to all configurations. The remote-controlled couple vibrator is one of our bestsellers, appreciated for its ability to adapt to all anatomies.
For those wishing to explore consensual power dynamics, our BDSM collection also offers accessories (bondage, handcuffs, masks) that do not presuppose any gender identity.
How to choose your inclusive sex toy: 5 essential criteria
Faced with the growing range, it can be difficult to find your way. Here are the criteria we recommend prioritizing for an informed purchase:
- Material: Prefer medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, or stainless steel. These materials are non-porous, easy to disinfect, and compatible with most lubricants (be careful, silicone is incompatible with silicone-based lubricants).
- Ergonomics: A toy without a gendered anatomical shape adapts more easily to different bodies. Look for soft, curved, or abstract shapes.
- Power and vibration modes: The more variety in intensity and rhythm a toy offers, the more versatile it will be and the better it will adapt to different sensitivities.
- Manufacturer communication: Brands like We-Vibe, Je Joue, or Fun Factory use neutral and inclusive language in their product descriptions. This is often a good sign.
- Suitable lubricant: Regardless of the toy chosen, a good lubricant improves comfort and the experience. Check out our selection of lubricants to find the right product for your use.
FAQ: your questions about inclusive sex toys
Can a sex toy “for women” be used by a non-binary or trans person?
Absolutely. Marketing labels are often arbitrary and do not reflect anatomical reality. A clitoral stimulator can perfectly well be used on the glans of a penis or on any sensitive erogenous zone. What matters is the person's actual anatomy and the sensations they are looking for, not the label on the box. Don't hesitate to explore without letting yourself be limited by gendered categories.
Are there sex toys specifically designed for trans people?
Yes, more and more. Some manufacturers develop toys designed for transitioning anatomies, such as stimulators adapted to a clitoris enlarged by testosterone, or vibrators designed for a neovagina after vaginoplasty. Brands like Tantus or New York Toy Collective offer ranges explicitly designed for trans people. At quedulove.store, we select versatile products that adapt to all bodily realities.
Should you use a different lubricant depending on your anatomy?
The choice of lubricant depends mostly on the type of toy used and the practice, rather than on anatomy. For anal play, a thick water-based or silicone-based lubricant (if compatible with your toy) is recommended. For vaginal penetration, a water-based lubricant is generally the most versatile. People on hormone therapy may experience increased mucosal dryness and will particularly benefit from using a quality lubricant. Find all our advice and products in our lubricants collection.
Explore pleasure without borders at quedulove.store
At quedulove.store, we firmly believe that pleasure is a universal right, independent of gender, anatomy, or sexual orientation. Our selection of products is designed to be as inclusive as possible, with honest descriptions and caring guidance to help you make the best choice.
Whether you are looking for your first toy or wish to enrich your collection, our collections are waiting for you:
- Universal vibrators for all erogenous zones
- Pressure wave stimulators for intense stimulation
- Anal plugs for all experience levels
- Versatile dildos, including harness-compatible models
- Toys for couples adapted to all configurations
- Quality lubricants for optimal comfort
Your body deserves the best. Explore, experiment, and above all, take care of yourself.
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